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I’m Jess O’Reilly and I’m a sexologist. Born in Canada, I’m Chinese-Jamaican on my mom’s side and Irish on my dad’s. I have a PhD in human sexuality with a focus on teacher training in sexual health & relationship education. School-based education is my passion, so if you’re a teacher, parent or student in a public school, reach out, as I’d love to come volunteer in your classroom!
These days, I travel around the world — from Switzerland and India to London and LA to work with couples who want to invest in their relationships just as they invest in every other area of their lives — from health to wealth. And my workshops don’t just focus on sex, but intersect with all things related to communication, commitment, pleasure, joy, love and fulfilment.
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One lesson from a happy couple on board the Desire Cruise: Don’t wait for whatever time is left over at the end of the day, month or year. Plan your love just like you plan vacations, kids’ schedules, and even football pools! 🗓️
“If it matters to you, you’ll carve out time for it. Don’t just spend your ‘leftover’ time together—plan for quality time, adventure, and connection. Otherwise, you’ll get none of it.” C&M from Venezuela.
Is your relationship getting scraps, or are you planning for something greater? Now is as good a time as ever to be intentional. 💕
I had the pleasure of chatting with Chris* and Sheila*, who are likely the longest married couple on the cruise. But it’s not the longevity of their relationship that matters. It’s the fact that they adore one another after decades of friendship, intimacy and pleasure. And their willingness to show up to my workshop with the most open minds after so many years of marriage is so cool and humbling. I asked them for their best relationship advice and they both highlighted the value of slowing down — at work, at the dinner table and in the bedroom. They’ve been through a lot together from raising kids and caring for aging parents to running and selling a business. If they could go back and do it again, they say they’d “rush around a whole lot less”. As someone who loves rushing around, I’m sitting with this one and thinking about how to slow down just a little bit at a time. Will share their specific strategies for slowing down in an upcoming post. *names have been changed.
A quick lesson from our couples’ workshop on the Bosphorous: Assume the BEST. We’re often told not to make assumptions, but it’s a natural part of how we navigate the world - an evolutionary holdover for survival that allows us to efficiently process information and navigate complex interactions. So why not shift toward making positive assumptions regarding the ones we love? Assume they meant well. Assume they’re being considerate. Assume they’re doing their best. Of course we all need positive and assuring inputs, but rather than seeking constant reassurance, ask for it when needed and find ways to affirm yourself in the meantime.🚢Thank you to all the @desirecruisesofficial couples who have been sharing their insights from Athens to Istanbul and beyond. Next stop: Kusadasi❣️
Gelotophilia stood out as an important lesson from last night’s couples’ workshop in Athens. One happy couple stood out from the onset and shared that their secret to a happy marriage involves laughing together and at themselves. And science backs them up. A study found that those who take joy in laughing with and at one another report happier relationships and higher sexual satisfaction. On the other hand, gelotophobia (fear of being laughed at) is associated with negative outcomes including more frequent fights and lower levels trust. Even when life is heavy, laughter can ease your load.
Source cited: Brauer, K., & Proyer, R. T. (2018). To love and laugh: Testing actor-, partner-, and similarity effects of dispositions towards ridicule and being laughed at on relationship satisfaction. Journal of Research in Personality. Advance online publication. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jrp.2018.08.008
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